Around last November, I'd had enough of my hair. Detangling, styling, and daily maintenance seemed like inconveniences that I could do without
Marley buns: another fave of mine. If you ever need a simple, chic style in less than 10 minutes, this is IT.
Kinky/curly weave: I LOVED this look. The maintenance? Not so much. I detangled this hair once a week with Tresemme Naturals condititioner and a Denman brush, and I'm not exaggerating when I say these detangling sessions were nightmares. Was the end result worth it? The verdict's still out. I'm not sure how kinky/curly weaves from different companies stack up; however, I'm almost sure that there is weave out there that may be a little less work than the one I bought from manedepot.com. If I ever get weave again, I'll try heatfreehair.com.
Afro Puffy Twists: These were OK-- nothing to jump up and down about. I wouldn't necessarily get this style again; however, one of the pros of this style is that it looks very similar to natural, kinky hair. I still have two pack of hair left, so sometime before the end of the year, I'll get some Havana Twists.
While I liked each of these styles, once the 6 months was over, I knew I needed to stop relying on protective styling and start acting like I knew how to take care of the hair on my head. So, since the end of May, I've resumed my regular regimen:
Detangle + Shampoo + Deep Condition once a week/ every two weeks
Bentonite Clay treatments every other month (something new I've added)
Protein treatments once a month
What I've learned:
- Be happy with YOUR hair and its progress. Drooling over other ladies' gorgeous locks is fine, but it's not going to make your hair 4b, ear-length kinks transform into 3C, armpit length curls overnight. Learn to genuinely be OK with that.
- Don't freak out over things such as shedding, occasional breakage, dryness, etc. Do your research. Seek advice from stylists you trust. Treat your hair (and body!) with care. Any issue you have with your hair can usually be solved with proper care (internally and externally) and patience. No one's hair is perfect. The sooner you accept that, the easier your experience will be.
- There are no shortcuts. Ever. If there is ever a time when you do something that you know damn well you shouldn't (e.g., going to sleep without a bonnet or satin pillowcase, yanking that blow dryer through your hair because you "don't have time" to take your time and do it, neglecting your hair while it's in a protective style), you will pay. If you've noticed, women with healthy hair don't usually have identical regimens-- as a matter of fact, often times, their regimens differ drastically. The common factor is the care they take when they handle their hair. Treat your hair like silk, and you won't go wrong.
- People and their unsolicited opinions can have a seat. *pulls out chair* Someone is always going to have something to say about your hair and what you should or shouldn't be doing. If how you wear and take care of your hair works for you and you are happy with the results, ignore these people and keep it moving. Seriously.